For many of us, the thought of going through life alone isn’t pleasant. Sometimes it seems like the world is geared toward married couples, and being single can feel awkward. However, when we rely on our own efforts to jump into a relationship and find a spouse, the results can be hit-or-miss. The search can seem like looking for the proverbial needle in a haystack, but putting God in the center instead of our own anxieties and fears opens the door for amazing things to happen.
God is aware of what’s in our hearts, as well as our hopes and dreams for the future. He knows the thoughts of everyone on the planet, saved and unsaved. He also knows what we need and wants to bless us abundantly, but wants us to realize the true source of all the blessings He wants to send our way. “For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:32, 33, NKJV). When we seek God, first, we see supernatural results that come only from Him.
We live in a lonely world; some people hit the singles bars and dating websites or try any other method they can think of to meet someone. Sometimes these efforts end badly and the results are disappointment and discouragement. Other people become so desperate they marry the first person they can find, even if they hear God’s voice warning them against it. This is the opposite of what God wants for us. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11, NKJV).
Relying on self-effort to find a life partner amounts to nothing. The way to turn things around is to trust God and simply rest in His promises to take care of us and provide for all our needs. Placing our faith in Him may not always make sense to our logical minds, but if we depend on Him, He’ll speak to our hearts while illuminating a plan of action. “Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths” (Proverbs 3:5, 6, AMPC).
Admitting that we have no idea where to look, and asking God for help, produces powerful results. It lets Him get involved in what matters deeply to us so that He can guide our search, thereby greatly increasing our chances of success. God knows much more than we do and matching up two people is a simple thing for Him. It’s something He wants to do because He loves us and wants us to be happy.
Trying too hard to find a mate can be against our best interests; however, when we rest from searching and let God take over, He goes to work on our behalf. “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls]” (Matthew 11:28, AMPC). God cares deeply about this. When His hand guides the process, our relationships will be blessed by heaven.